This May Shock You, But Your Concern Is Killing Us

I don’t have to tell you that our society equates size with health. And I may not have to tell you that this is a false equivalence. But this is information that bears repeating:

Not all thin people are healthy. And not all fat people are unhealthy. People can be healthy at any size.

I also think it’s worth saying that there are very few occasions when it’s appropriate to concern yourself with another’s health. 

Nonetheless, many persist in concerning themselves with the health of others: from family members to strangers they meet in the grocery store.

I have been on the receiving end of advice from people like this. And I believe that for the most part, they mean well. If you are one of these well-meaning people who are generally concerned with the health of your friends, family, or your fellow human in the grocery store, here’s what I’d like you to know:

Your actions have unintended consequences. They cause far more harm than good. If you really want to help people be healthy, please stop. Accept us as we are.

Telling us that we’re unhealthy can make us feel terrible about ourselves. From there, the mental and physical health effects are endless. Research proves it.

The Association for Size Diversity and Health is a network of physicians, counselors, nutritionists and other health professionals who celebrate bodies of all shapes and sizes. Their Health At Every Size® (HAES®) approach prioritizes the holistic health of every person.

I am so honored to announce that I will be presenting to the HAES® Community at their upcoming conference in August 2018. Click here for more information and to buy tickets.

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Rebecca Alexander is the Founder of AllGo. She founded AllGo because, as a fat woman, she has spent countless hours scouring the internet to reduce her anxiety about going to new places. Rebecca wants the world to be more accessible for people of size.

Rebecca is also the author of A Kids Book About Body Image, a book that takes the conversation around body image head-on, helping kids not only love their own bodies the way they are and understand the corporate origins of body image struggles.